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The Hidden Health Dangers of Perfectionism and People-Pleasing
Insights from Dr. Gabor Maté to Help Us Be Healthier
Dr. Gabor Maté, renowned speaker, author, and physician, brings an empathetic and holistic approach to understanding human behavior and its profound impact on health. His work, particularly evident in his acclaimed book, “When the Body Says No,” delves into the deep-seated connections between emotional repression, chronic stress, and the manifestation of physical illnesses.
This article focuses on one of the many dimensions of his work — how perfectionists, do-gooders, and people-pleasers become prone to sickness. After reading the work of Dr. Mate, I’m blown away by how few medical professionals truly understand the dynamics between the mind and body.
Dr. Maté believes that perfectionism, the urge to be a do-gooder, and people-pleasing tendencies are not mere personality traits but coping mechanisms that individuals develop in response to their environments. However, these mechanisms can morph into chronic stressors, adversely affecting one’s health.
Perfectionism
For perfectionists, the fear of making mistakes and the relentless pursuit of flawlessness becomes a chronic stressor. Per Dr. Maté, “Emotional stress is a major cause of physical…
